Commonly, we have predefined and implicit expectations of other people. In coaching, we refer to this concept as our manual. Our manuals for spouses, friends, neighbors and coworkers are often extensive. When people fall short of these expectations, our thoughts spiral and assign meanings to their actions. These thoughts cause emotional turmoil, which often result in actions like buffering with food, alcohol or other vises undermining our weight loss efforts. During this podcast, I discuss this concept and present an alternative approach.